Being in a home with both a mother and father is every child’s dream; especially if they’ve lived this way their entire lives. So the shock of divorce can put a strain on your children as they try to cope with the fact that their lives will change forever.
All they’ve ever known is their safe, secure home with mom and dad, which is now being ripped apart. This could be very traumatizing for any child.
Therefore, parents have to do everything within their power to help their children effectively deal with the divorce. One of the most important things you can do is let your children tell you how they feel about the divorce. In fact, the only way you can help them through it is to understand what they are feeling.
Open, honest communication is the key. Ask your children what they are feeling, whether it’s positive or negative, and give them encouraging words to help them stay positive.
Many children start to blame themselves for the divorce when it actually has nothing to do with them. Because they don’t know what to think or how to feel, they come to their own conclusions, which is never the reality. This is why it’s crucial that parents step in and open up communication channels with their children to help them cope.
Last but definitely not least, do not talk bad about your ex-spouse around your kids. Not only does this create negative energy, but it could also cause other unnecessary emotional turmoil.
Divorce is hard enough; especially for children. Just be there for your kids with open arms and ears so you can help ease the pain during these rough times.
If you have legal concerns and are unsure of what to do, contact an experienced Barrington divorce and family law attorney at Bush & Heise today. Call us at 1-847-382-4560 or click here to schedule a free initial consultation for an honest and straightforward assessment of your case.